Essential Oils For Emotional Release



Emotions are such an integral part of being human. We adore the good feelings no doubt and wish they would last forever. But sadly, the reality is that life lessons force negative emotions to rise and often, even engulf us,

We naturally look for ways to release the turmoil in our body’s when stress hits. Traditional methods often include practices such as counselling, meditation, emotional freedom technique (EFT), reiki, acupuncture, massage, and even hypnotherapy.

There is also a tool which is not often used for letting go but can be very beneficial in the release of toxic emotions – that tool is essential oils.

Essential oils can help release all the emotions that keep you stuck and unable to move forward.

This is because your sense of smell links directly to the limbic lobe of your brain which stores and releases emotional trauma. Smelling essential oils can help you mobilize and release the negative emotions like anger, fear, shame, guilt or grief so that you can move forward and heal.

I know from personal experience how challenging it can be to release these negative emotions in the midst of trauma and loss.  But I also recognize that even the most painful situation can be a catalyst for positive growth and healing if you allow yourself to learn and grow from the situation.

Essential oils are a powerful tool to help facilitate that growth and help you let go of emotions that no longer serve you.

Let’s dive in and discuss specific essential oils for the most common emotions that we often feel:

– Anger

– Fear

– Grief

– Guilt

– Shame


Releasing Anger



Excessive anger activates your stress hormones and can take a toll on both your health and your relationships.  A 5-minute episode of anger can impair your immune system for more than six hours.

Intense anger can also prevent you from experiencing valuable learning that allows you to move forward and heal.   It can keep you stuck in the role of victim, which allows you to suppress or deflect your emotional pain.

By making everything everyone else’s fault, you are actually choosing to remain powerless to change, grow or learn from challenging situations. Similarly, trying to control the problem only keeps you more attached to it.  If you can let go of your attachment to what went wrong or what should have happened, you can create the possibility of growth – and pave the path for more positive results.

When you choose to blame others in situations where you also played a role in the outcome, you often miss a powerful opportunity to grow and expand.  When you let go of anger, you can acknowledge your shortcomings, accept responsibility for your choices and open up to the possibility of making different choices that can result in different outcomes.

What’s more, your anger doesn’t do anything to fix the situation.   It just holds the negative energy in your field.

Various essential oils allow you to release anger, blame, and shame that are often stored on a very deep cellular level – especially in your liver.

These oils include a mix of:

– Blue Tansy

– Cypress

– Elemi

– German Chamomile

– Helichrysum italicum (Curry Plant)

– Lavender

– Rose Geranium

– Sandalwood

– Ylang Ylang

– White Grapefruit

I would recommend deeply breathing in these oils (singly or ideally mixed) and exhaling slowly while intentionally releasing the anger.  It helps you breathe into and work through the emotion.

You can also topically apply 2- 3 drops of this mix over your liver to help work through and release your anger and boost resilience.

You can also apply it around the ankles as this is often an area where we hold resistance to moving forward in life and block the ability to receive joy and pleasure.


Releasing Fear



Fear would have to be the main emotion that keeps you stuck.  Fear of the unknown is often more paralyzing than the certainty of remaining in an unhappy situation.

Most people would rather continue to deal with a difficult person or situation they know as opposed to changing the situation and risk dealing with a new person or situation that could be worse.  This fear can keep you stuck and unable to move forward.

Fear activates your stress response with anxious or fearful thoughts triggering the release of stress hormones, like cortisol and adrenaline.  Fear of physical threats is a survival mechanism meant to protect you.  It throws your body into the flight or fight sympathetic response necessary to survive.

Emotional or thought driven fear are often based on anxiety, worry and resulting thought patterns about all the things that could go wrong in an imaginary future.  Unfortunately, your body and its stress response cannot tell the difference between physical fear and emotional fear.

You release the same flood of hormones in both cases.  For those of you who suffer from anxiety, worry or fear, this often means that your bodies are stuck in a constant stress response.

Emotions, like fear, are processed through the amygdala which is part of the limbic system, the primitive animal part of the brain.

Fortunately, the body has a relaxation response which is the counterbalance to the fight or flight stress response, shutting off the sympathetic nervous system and switching it over to the nervous system is a relaxed state known as the parasympathetic nervous system.

In this naturally relaxed state, you can release your fear, allowing your body to return to balance.

To help trigger the body’s natural parasympathetic response, you can use a mix of the following oils:

– Clove Bud

– Lime

Simply apply the blend on the vagus nerve spot behind ear lobe on the mastoid bone.  When your body is relaxed in the parasympathetic state, your fear response often subsides.

Other oils to help modulate the body’s stress response to fear include a blend of oils that calm the hypothalamus. Under conditions of chronic stress, the hypothalamus is repeatedly triggering the adrenal glands to release stress responses.

Oils that assist the hypothalamus include:

– Bay Rum

– Frankincense

– Patchouli

– Pine

– Red Mandarin

Simply apply this mix over the third eye (between your eyebrows) to help to return the hypothalamus to balance.

Similarly, oils that assist the adrenals can be either smelled or applied over the adrenals (back of the body one fist up from the bottom rib) to help return the adrenals to balance.

Such oils include:

– Basil

– Cinnamon

– Galbanum

– Manuka

– Rosemary

– Thyme

Finally, fear is often associated with your kidneys, which regulate the balance and flow of fluids in your body, by selectively filtering out or retaining various minerals and electrolytes.

In TCM, fear is associated with the water element, as water is symbolic of your unconscious, or that which you do not understand and therefore might fear.  These feelings of fear and paranoia can be held in your kidneys impairing function.

Various essential oils that support your kidneys can be applied over your kidneys (mid outer back region), back of the neck, or around the outside of earlobes, to help dispel fear, and assist you in feeling safe.

These essential oils include:

– Cedarwood

– Fir Needle

– Frankincense

– Pine

– Spruce

– Ylang Ylang


Releasing Grief



Grief can negatively affect your physical health.  For example, grief can weaken your immune system, leading to illness or infection. In fact, research shows those who had lost a loved one had weaker immune systems compared with those who had not suffered a loss.

Emotionally and physically, your lungs and your large intestine help you release and “let go” of whatever you don’t need.  This includes both intense emotions and metabolic waste.

Your lungs function as a fundamental source of life energy -transporting oxygen from the atmosphere into the capillaries so they can oxygenate blood – as well as an important channel of elimination – releasing carbon dioxide from the bloodstream into the atmosphere.

Feelings of grief, bereavement, regret, loss, remorse can obstruct the ability of the lungs to accept and relinquish, impeding their function of “taking in” and “letting go”.

The grief that remains unresolved can become chronic and create disharmony in the lungs, weakening the lung’s function of circulating oxygen around the body.  When lung function is impaired, it leads to shortness of breath, fatigue, and feelings of melancholy.  Sadly, many chronic respiratory diseases and conditions develop after a major loss or bereavement.

In order to grow, we often need to move on from old behaviour and thought patterns as well as individuals, places, and possessions.  There is often a deep sense of loss and grief associated with the process of letting go.

Certain essential oils help to release grief when topically inhaled through the nose or applied directly over the lungs.

These include:

– Bergamot

– Geranium

– Lemon

– Orange

– Red Mandarin

– Rose

– Ylang Ylang

Similarly, your large intestine lets go of those things that don’t serve you.  Physically, it lets go of waste after your upper digestive system has taken all the necessary nutrients out of the food you eat.  Emotionally, it allows you to let go of patterns of negative thinking, destructive emotions, and spiritual blockages that prevent us from being our best.

Compromised large intestine energy presents as having a hard time moving on from difficult situations, or holding onto emotions that harm or fail to serve you.  This holding on can manifest as an unwillingness to share emotions or be open with others – the phenomenon of “bottling up” emotions for years very often leads to chronic constipation.

Various essential oils can ease the feelings of loss, heals emotions, creates a feeling of security, and is grounding. They motivate us to move forward, assists with transitions or changing course in life, eases the feelings of loss, heals emotions, creates a feeling of security, and grounding.

Simply apply the following oils over the large intestine, around the ears or on the bottom of the feet to help you let go of past hurts:

– Cedarwood

– Cinnamon Bark

– Cypress

– Elemi

– Frankincense

– German Chamomile

– Helichrysum italicum (Curry Plant)

– Hyssop

– Myrtle

– Myrrh

– Peppermint

– Rose

– Sandalwood

– Ylang Ylang 

Releasing Guilt



Guilt turns blame inward, a concept known as self-blame, where you attribute any negative outcome to a personal shortcoming or deficiency.  Guilt also has to do with control.  You may like to believe that things should go your way and when they do not, you feel guilty about it.

The energies of guilt can create stagnation in the body, which may cause problems in the physical organs of the body, physically affect the back of your body, including your heart and pain in the back of the head and neck where guilt and self-recrimination hides.

Pain in the neck often means you believe you have made mistakes and haven’t forgiven yourself.

Guilt can also weaken your immune system. Studies have found higher levels of illness-fighting immunoglobulin A levels in those who took pleasure in activities with less guilt.

Specific essential oils applied over your heartback or neck can help to amplify feelings of self-love and gratitude, helping to balance and heal feelings of guilt.

These oils include:

– Blue Tansy

– Jasmine

– Neroli

– Roman Chamomile

– Spruce

Releasing Shame



Shame results when you receive negative messages from others, leading you to believe that you are bad, defective, or unworthy and somehow helpless to change that deficit. Feelings of helplessness and powerlessness often accompany shame, producing high levels of stress-related hormones, like cortisol, that wreak havoc in the body.

Others may feel justified in showering you with mental, physical, emotional or verbal abuse, in effect shaming you for something you are doing or not doing.  If you choose to accept that as your truth, you allow yourself to suffer unnecessarily.

Poor boundaries are correlated with shame, especially when you believe you lack the power, skill, knowledge, or capability to manage the expectations of others and continually seek validation through serving their needs and wants.  Not surprisingly, your body holds shame in your digestive system, primarily the small intestine which is also associated with boundaries.

Certain essential oils may help you support positive boundaries and confidence to assist in bringing a sense of peace to our lives.  When you are struggling with negative emotions, like shame, it can be uplifting and help release and clear any residual negative emotions.

These oils are best applied in a clockwise direction around the belly button.

Essential oils for assisting the small intestine include:

– Grapefruit

– Lemongrass

– Lime

– Litsea

– Red Mandarin

– Sandalwood

– Tangerine

– Ylang Ylang


In Summary

It’s okay to feel your emotions.

Some days you don’t have to be happy or push a smile on your face.

Just don’t let your emotions take over or linger. As much as possible, don’t dwell on your problems. Address them right away and do something constructive to make the situation better before you react.

You can take control of your life.

You have the power.

If you feel overwhelmed, however, please seek professional help and do not suffer alone.

Please reach out for help.

**If you’ve got this far – thank you for reading and I look forward to bringing you more information in the future.

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